You Should Date Mike Winer

About Me

I'm a scientist who spends my days thinking about AI safety and my nights reading history or writing fiction. I work at the Alignment Research Center.

I love starting conversations with deep questions (eg, if you could have all the talents of anyone in history on top of your own, who would you choose?). I'm the kind of person who gets genuinely excited about explaining spin glass theory at dinner parties, and I'll get even more excited hearing about what you're interested in.

I'm told my personality is 'intense.' The first time someone told me I wasn't chill, I did what anyone would do and asked the next fifteen people I saw whether I was chill (3/15 said yes). I'm funny, I like talking about ideas about 2.5 times more than I like talking about people, and I get very animated when I'm excited.

Who I'm Looking For

I want to date someone who is smart and curious and who laughs at my jokes.

Smart. When I talk with you, I want to learn something. I tend to ask a lot of questions when I'm talking, and I want you to be able to at least guess at the answers.

Curious. The teaching goes both ways. If I'm going to listen to your Wikipedia rabbit holes, you better be willing to listen to mine.

Laughs at my jokes. Humor is a pretty big part of how I bond with people. Many of my closest connections are built around extending a joke several months past when it stopped being funny.

Physically, I'm most attracted to people who approximate the 'nerdy Jewish girl' phenotype, but I also have a very fortunate eye condition where woman who date me become instantly attractive.

What I Want in a Relationship

I'm looking for a serious monogamous relationship, with the goal of marriage and kids within the next few years. I want a best friend and a teammate, but I also want to have those romantic feelings that are hard to describe in a date-me doc.

My ideal relationship is built around end-of-day conversations. A mix of how-was-your-day and why-do-you-think-history-remembers-MLK-more-than-Roy-Wilkins. And gossip. I like cooking meals with my partner, cuddling, and watching lighthearted comedy shows.

Hot take: common interests are overrated in a relationship. If I'm interested in you, I'll find your interests interesting. You're into knitting? Great, tell me about yarn weights. You're into musicals? I'm not, but I still what to know what your favorite is. There's no such thing as boring topics, only boring people.

What I Bring to a Relationship

I'm an A+ gift giver in every aspect of life. I once designed a personalized crossword puzzle for a friend's birthday, and I have impeccable taste in purchasing the affection of 6-year-olds. I write good romantic notes and can plan a killer date. I'm middling at spontaneously showing physical affection, but I've been known to give a really nice hug when the situation demands it.

Things I Love

• Long walks, alone or with a friend
• Books that make me see the world differently
• Books that make me see the world the same
• Palak Paneer
• Brooklyn 99

Testimonials

"Most unabashedly American person I've ever met"

"He's just a smart witty acerbic jewish guy"

"More curious than wise"